In today’s world, there is increasing talk about the importance of inclusivity, including in language and behavior. The way we address others, the words we use, and the attitudes we present have a significant impact on children’s development. It affects their self-esteem, ambitions, and vision of their future, especially in professions that are stereotypically assigned to one gender. Below, we present how we can avoid stereotypes in everyday communication and provide children with the support they need.

Language shapes awareness

The words we use have power. For example, phrases like “boys are better at math” or “girls are more sensitive” can subtly plant limiting beliefs. According to research conducted by the American Psychological Association, children easily absorb stereotypes from their environment and, over time, begin to believe they have certain abilities and traits based on gender. Therefore, it is important to use neutral expressions that emphasize the child’s individual traits rather than stereotypical opinions.

Examples of inclusive language

Here are a few suggestions on how we can consciously use language:

  • Role reversal in examples: Often, when we talk about different professions, we subconsciously associate them with a specific gender. Instead of saying “nurse” or “engineer” as default professions for women and men, it’s worth introducing diversity by using examples of professions that break these divisions. We can use neutral terms like “specialist” or “employee.”
  • Supportive messages for development: Instead of saying “girls are sensitive,” it’s better to appreciate their individual traits like empathy or understanding others. Similarly, boys can be attributed qualities like compassion, not just physical strength. This approach supports the development of well-rounded competencies.

How to avoid stereotypical reactions?

Even the smallest everyday comments can reinforce stereotypes. We should be mindful not to express surprise when a girl is interested in computer science or a boy in theater. Research conducted by the University College London Institute of Education showed that children develop greater career ambitions when their interests are supported without stereotypical judgments.

Example: If your daughter expresses interest in robotics, don’t say “That’s a bit of a masculine interest,” but show enthusiasm: “Great that you’re interested in that! It’s a very forward-thinking field.”

Building a future free from prejudices

It’s not enough just to change the language—our attitudes and behaviors are also crucial. If we want our children to grow up free from prejudices, we should consciously show them models of diverse social roles:

  • Showing diverse role models: It’s important to mention women scientists and men who work as primary school teachers. This helps broaden their perspective on who they can become in the future.
  • Encouraging exploration: Instead of assigning activities to children based on gender, it’s better to encourage them to explore different fields, regardless of stereotypes.

What effects can inclusive language have?

Inclusive language and attitudes free from stereotypes have a profound impact on children’s self-esteem and their readiness to explore new paths. Children who are not burdened by stereotypes are more likely to choose educational and career paths that align with their passions rather than social pressure. Statistics from McKinsey & Company’s report show that women who have had support for their interests from childhood are 30% more likely to choose careers in STEM fields.

Parents and caregivers can play a key role in fighting prejudices and promoting equality by consciously using language and shaping attitudes. Our goal should be to create an environment in which children can develop their talents without gender-based limitations.

Sources:

  1. American Psychological Association, The effects of gender stereotypes on young children, 2019.
  2. University College London, Parental influence on children’s career ambitions, 2020.
  3. McKinsey & Company, Closing the STEM gap: Why STEM fields need more women, 2022.